Elena Mularcyzk’s daughter often asks her when she’ll have a baby brother or sister.
“Our daughter is constantly drawing pictures of babies in mommy’s tummy. She’s so excited about having a sibling,” the Oshawa, Ont., mother said.
“Any fertility process is just about waiting and waiting … now we need to wait some more,” Mularcyzk told Global News.
Her daughter Isabella, now four, was conceived after three rounds of IVF. Mularcyzk underwent a fourth unsuccessful round of IVF in an attempt to conceive a second child in 2019.
Then, earlier this year, she was finally told there was another viable embryo ready for transfer — but the procedure was placed on hold as fertility clinics were forced to close due to the COVID-19 outbreak.
“We’ll do a fifth round … and if we get lucky, that’s great, but if it doesn’t happen, at least we have our daughter.”
Mularcyzk is just one of thousands of people across Canada whose family planning has been put on hold due to the deadly coronavirus outbreak.
On April 1, the Canadian Fertility and Andrology Society (CFAS) recommended suspension of “all diagnostic and elective procedures and surgeries,” and “postponing any new cycle starts” other than for fertility preservation purposes related to cancer treatment.
Elective procedures include egg retrievals, IVF cycles, embryo transfers, ultrasounds and all the things preparing for a transfer, said Dr. Michael Virro, fertility doctor at the Markham Fertility Centre and staff physician at Markham-Stouffville Hospital in Toronto.
The unfortunate circumstances have left thousands of Canadian families in a lurch, and there’s no end in sight.
‘Losing precious time’
Fertility treatments are already emotionally-laden and stressful for couples, and the coronavirus crisis is only compounding those feelings.
“So many people seeking IVF are in their last few years of fertility. They’re losing precious time right now as they ride out the pandemic,” said Christine Korol, registered psychologist at the Vancouver Anxiety Centre.
“Procedures being delayed for 12 to 18 months might mean that some people just don’t get to have families.”
If you’re someone in this position, it’s totally normal to feel fear, sadness and grief.
“Fertility issues can cause an array of strong emotions towards oneself and one’s partner,” said registered psychotherapist Renee Raymond, of CaRib Counselling & Psychotherapy in Toronto.
“A woman may become anxious, depressed and feel highly stressed. It can also affect one’s feelings of self-worth and their self-concept related to being a woman.”
Pausing treatment can bring back those feelings of vulnerability people might feel about their inability to become parents, said Raymond.
“The loss of control and hope that may result from an interruption like COVID-19 can leave people reeling, unsure of what the future holds for them.”
It’s important that couples observe how they feel right now, seeking support from friends, family, doctors or therapists when needed, said Raymond.
This will help them stay “as grounded and healthy as possible” during these uncertain times.
While several of Virro’s patients were upset by the news, he was uplifted by the overall response.
“They’re saying: ‘We get it. We want to have our IVF done, but we also want to be safe and to get this virus under control.'”
Delaying fertility treatment can be especially difficult for older patients, given that age is known to impact success.
Fertility decreases after age 35, according to Health Canada.
He worries about his older patients during this time, especially those in their 40s.
Mularcyzk is concerned about how long she may be asked to wait.
“Time is always a huge concern,” Mularcyzk said.
“The idea that I’m getting older … what does that mean for my chances?”
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— With files from the Canadian Press & Global News’ Caryn Lieberman