Corey Haim’s mom opens up about son’s snubs, tributes to Cory Monteith

Judy Haim and her son, actor Corey Haim, pictured in 2007. Getty Images

TORONTO — The mother of Canadian actor Corey Haim said Friday she is disappointed her son’s Hollywood friends and colleagues do not take the time to visit his grave near Toronto.

“I wish that some of his co-stars and people who worked with him in the past would go,” Judy Haim told Global News in an exclusive interview. “I’m sure a lot of these people know that his resting place is in Toronto. It would be nice if someone would visit him.”

The star of such ’80s films as The Lost Boys and License to Drive, Corey died in his mother’s arms on March 10, 2010. The coroner’s report indicated the 38-year-old died from “diffused alveolar damage, community acquired pneumonia, and hypertrophic cardiomyopathy with coronary arteriosclerosis.”

Referring to the flood of stars who attend the Toronto International Film Festival, Haim added: “Hollywood comes here once a year. I haven’t seen one note from any of them. It’s sad to me… for him.”

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Haim said her son’s real-life friend and frequent co-star Corey Feldman — who didn’t attend his 2010 funeral — finally paid his respects in person this past summer. Feldman was en route to Niagara Falls in June to attend a Comic Con event when “he showed up at my house,” Haim recalled.

“I took him to the cemetery.”

Corey Haim, pictured in March 2009 — one year before his death. (Getty Images).

Despite having made dozens of movies during his career, Corey’s name was left out of the “In Memoriam” segment at the Oscars, prompting his mother to tell People she was “hurt” and “numb.”

Today, the Toronto-born star’s mom remains bitter by the snub.

“The Academy Awards and [Screen Actors Guild] Awards totally forgot about my kid,” Haim said. “It hurts me as a mother because they didn’t give him the honour and recognition that he deserved.
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“My heart sank for my kid and for myself,” she added. “It’s not right, not fair.”

Haim’s feelings about the lack of recognition for Corey were made worse this summer following the overdose death of Canadian actor Cory Monteith in a Vancouver hotel room. Despite having starred in only one TV series and a handful of small movies, Monteith — who spoke about past battles with addiction but hid his habit from fans — was celebrated and honoured by other stars when he died and given a special tribute at the Emmy Awards.

“The difference is my kid wore his heart on his sleeve. He told everybody about his struggles,” Haim said of her son’s well-documented battles with addiction. “The truth doesn’t work well in Hollywood.”

Haim said she is sympathetic nonetheless. “My heart goes out to his family, because I know. I feel the pain and I’m so sorry for his loss.”

Nearly four years after Corey’s death, Haim said she still mourns.

“Since Corey passed away I can’t even breathe,” she said. “He went way too soon.”


Corey Haim's grave stone at Pardes Shalom Cemetery in Vaughan, Ont. (John R. Kennedy / Global News).
Messages on rocks have been left at the grave site. (John R. Kennedy / Global News).
Visitors to Haim's final resting place leave stones -- a Jewish custom -- on his gravestone. (John R. Kennedy / Global News).
Haim's gravestone is covered in stones left behind by fans, friends and family members. (John R. Kennedy / Global News).
A plaque on a nearby bench pays tribute to the late actor. (John R. Kennedy / Global News).

Haim admitted her visits to Corey’s grave site at Pardes Shalom Cemetery in Vaughan, Ont. are not as frequent as they once were.

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“In the beginning I went every week but people advised me not to go that often,” said Haim. “I try to keep it to [special occasions].”

The late actor’s gravestone, which includes his nickname “Haimster” in the upper left corner, is engraved with: “You are a bright shining star that will live on for eternity. You will always be loved and forever be in our hearts. Peace.”

His mother said: “I wrote everything on it because I know that’s the way Corey would have wanted it.”

Two film projectors are also etched into the black granite in honour of Corey’s quarter-century acting career.

A nearby bench — a gift from a family friend in Los Angeles — includes a plaque that reads: “In loving memory of Corey Ian Haim. One of the most loving, giving and talented people that ever walked this earth. You will be missed.”

Haim said she is delighted that fans continue to visit the site and lay stones of all shapes and sizes on the grave — a Jewish custom.

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Four stones, placed in a line, spell out “Why u.” One, painted with colourful insects, reads: “R.I.P. Haimster.”

“Fans make it a point to go there, which is incredible,” Haim said. “I don’t mind at all. I’m happy that people go. It’s amazing. It gives them closure, too.”

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