Mary Lou Lord, Kurt Cobain’s ex, lashes out at Courtney Love

Courtney Love and Kurt Cobain are pictured in 1993 with daughter Frances Bean Cobain. Jeff Kravitz/FilmMagic/Getty Images

NOTE: After this article was published, two of Lord’s Facebook posts were made private. Mary Lou Lord also clarified her statement in a Facebook post; that post is at the bottom of this article. Global News has also reached out to Lord for further information; she has not responded. As a result, this article has been updated.

When Nirvana frontman Kurt Cobain was found dead in his Seattle home in 1994, with a shotgun next to his body, most simply assumed that he committed suicide. Tests discovered an incredibly high level of heroin in his system, further confirming that Cobain may have purposefully tried to overdose. After all, this is the man who penned a song called I Hate Myself and Want to Die.

Now, over 20 years later, a murder conspiracy theory still exists. This theory’s main proponent is private investigator Tom Grant, who was hired by Cobain’s wife at the time of his death, Courtney Love. After Cobain died, Love was convinced it was not a suicide despite a suicide note and Cobain’s near-fatal drug overdose in Rome nearly a month prior to his passing. Grant’s theory is that Love had something to do with Cobain’s death.

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Cobain’s ex-girlfriend Mary Lou Lord, who the deceased rock singer dated before his marriage to Love, has now spoken up on Facebook, lashing out at Love, who she calls a “sociopathic money hungry, fame mongering, terribly dressed NO TALENT s–t bag.”

Lord complains that she’s been threatened and abused by Love for decades, that the Hole frontwoman would send her “stupid private shares,” “write with lipstick ‘you suck’, or ‘f–k you’ on [her] car windshield signed ‘Courtney,'” and even send Lord and Lord’s family death threats. The very long first post is below. (Warning: There is foul language in both the Facebook posts.)

“To Courtney and her sycophants and lemmings….
There is a very BIG difference between “Name Drop” and “clearing your name/history”….especially if this person/band/connection might be one of the things that will always haunt you by the fact this it is now still “a living, breathing, thing”…..and I will not go down without a f–king fight to set the record straight with that c–t. I honestly mean that. I HATE her, and why didn’t I say anything back then? I was too scared. And also, out of respect for Kurt’s daughter who was a child. I also had my own child, and it’s not cool to be putting anyone’s parents down in a place where a child might see it. I kept my mouth shut for Frances. I didn’t want to add more hate on top of what that poor kid must have already had to go through concerning the parent she had left. But now Frances is older, and married, and seems happy and grounded. That’s all that would have been important to him. And I respected him. No matter how much I did want to say what I wanted to say back then. It was the case for Many of us. We were scared s–t of Courtney, her sycophants, and had to keep our mouths shut or start some kind of a flame war. None of that would have been good, or smart. Especially if there were any children involved.
But now, it appears that time did what it was meant to do, and Courtney love does not have the respect, trust, or power she once had ANd therefore, I am no longer fearful. But at one time, during the time I never said a word out of fear of a flame war with all her Courtney-tard followers. I just sat, silentely, and watched her lie about me (and everything and everyone else. She built her world, and manipulated other people’s lives by being the best LIAR and best actress in the world. Something that twisted and f–ked with a lot of good people. …I know at this point, I really am far too old for this s–t, but I know also, that even in my own small (and not famous or plastic life), I have just as much right to say NOW what I wanted to say then, but was too afraid of her, and her insanity, and in protecting my parents and loved ones. (she WAS that BAT s–t)…..but now, I am fearless of that c–t, and I will say exactly what I thought of her back then. And, that Nirvana band, is still just as evident now as it was then. SO, any accusers of me ” name dropping, etc” you can just f–k off. I am FAR from done with this sociopathic money hungry, fame mongering , terribly dressed NO TALENT s–t bag. Yes YOU Courtney Love. (having to read the lyrics to 13?) and your other bulls–t?
You BELONG in a theater. You are an actress. You were never you. You are the BEST actress i have ever seen, as a matter of fact…..YOU SOLD A LIE. And you f–ked up SO many lives. NEVER ever f–k with me again you c–t, cause I will crush you. I have waited 26 years for this. And it’s time. I will crush you. You are a self serving sociopath. Congrats on all the money that you got, that was never YOURS to begin with. You are scum. And I am about to CRUSH YOU. Let the Tom games begin. I am behind him. You will never know this, and neither will you Tom, but I did talk to him, and I DO know what he told me……..f–k YOU COURTNEY you piece of s–t sociopathic lemming, leech, and ultimate mind f–k bully! Stop f–king with me in your stupid private shares. I have NO FEAR of you any longer. You are a joke. Leave ME ALONE! Havent’ we both grown up by now? Shouldn’t you be happy with your Millions and Millions of dollars that YOU never earned or deserved? Stay the f–k away from me.”

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In her second post, Lord talks about her worry for Frances (Cobain’s and Love’s daughter), and how that protectiveness kept her quiet for so many years. She also thanks her supporters before going into a tirade about Love’s abuse and how “she did not deserve a person as kind and sensitive as he was, or the love that he most likely desperately tried to give her, in the hopes of getting love back.”

A portion of that post is below.

“I just wanted to thank you guys for being cool and tolerating my ranting 
about CL over the last few days. Something did indeed spark it…but I’m trying to let it all go now. A lot of you (old friends), were right there with me in the middle of this black tornado’s thrust, and I know it effected you too. It was a very weird and sad time for so many of us. For those of you who were there, this is for you too. I know your feelings aren’t that far removed. And although we don’t see each other much these days, know I love you. I know this is long, and boring….and yes, it is public. It’s just as public as the VERY public (in print, etc) , kick in the guts she gave me over an extended amount of time, and extended amount of threats. One, that has been a long time getting over, and one, that’s been a long time letting go of. Everyone should be able to have their day where they say exactly what they have wanted to say to someone who violated them. I’m most likely never gonna write a book, and if I suddenly croak, I want to finally have my say and my voice heard on this. Not hers. Mine.
I’ve mentioned things here and there, but out of respect for Kurt and Frances, I never fully publicized ALL my feelings on this subject. No kid should have to read s–tty things said about their parents. Especially when they are unable to understand or formulate their own opinions. Also, in the past, when I did say a few things here and there, it was FOR Frances if she had ever read what Courtney herself said about me concerning Kurt. What Courtney said, was actually a put down to her own husband. Those of you who know what I am talking about will understand what I mean. I said it in defense OF Kurt. He was NOT that kind of a guy who would do that. I wanted Frances (if she had ever privately read it), to know that. -That was one of the other incredibly disturbing aspects of Courtney’s lies. How it was also a total defamation of Kurt’s character within the context of her lie, and her wording. Printed in Rolling Stone, just weeks after he had died, when SHE was on the cover. And of course, Hole’s Live Through This, was #1. And, for weeks after this, it was HER not ME who was bringing attention to any involvement I might have had with him. I felt like a dork. I NEVER brought it up in interviews. It was her who planted any of the f–ked up attention it got to begin with. I just wanted to hide and cry.
In the past, I let (or, I thought I had), let it go. I guess that for some reason there was still a part that I hadn’t let go of. Anger is s–tty. Anger over something that happened 22 years ago. It might have something to do with these movies coming out, and having to partially re-live a feeling that never really went away. Or, was dormant. Seeing her or even hearing about her, kind of jolts me into anger. Why now? I dunno. Why do some people who got violated by priests, or hurt decades prior suddenly have the need to come forth and tell their story? I was absolutely emotionally violated by her, and it hurt me more than anyone will ever know. The defamation, the lies, and the spin off of that. Having to deal over the years with fans of hers who hated me for something that was not true to begin with. They clung on her every word, every move. Also, I was petrified of her. I feared for my life. There was no way to fight back-she was too powerful and no one would have believed me(trying to fight her lies), nor, would they have given a s–t. I was a no-one. I still am pretty much a no one in comparison with her, but I am much more fearless now. I suppose, in a way, it’s similar to how years later when people are grown up, and if they were abused, and had to remain silent, they finally confront a pedophile priest or abusive person that is now old, and elderly, and broken. To finally confront a person who scared the living s–t out of them, as well as abused them either emotionally, or physically. It IS a relief. It really is. I don’t look at her with pity really, (she is more beautiful than ever, and seems happy, etc)….But I feel like I can finally speak out because I am not alone any longer. People don’t believe her. I am not alone.”

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Hours after the story broke, Lord posted this to her Facebook page to clarify her position.

NOTE: A previous version of this article stated that a rifle was found next to Cobain’s dead body. It was actually a shotgun. Global News has made the correction and regrets the error.

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